It’s okay to not medically transition

One of the top questions I get asked on a regular basis is “have you had all the ops” – when being trans is more than just the operations and hormones.

There’s a huge amount of stigma attached to those who choose to not medically transition – everybody always assumes that someone needs to medically transition to be transgender – and this honestly isn’t the case. Some people may not transition due to not needing it, being poor, having medical conditions that may stop them and others learn to love themselves for who they are.

I went to the NUS trans students conference last week – and a figure of 27% of students aren’t going to transition and I posted it on twitter – which resulted in me getting tweeted by a good 50 TERFS saying that “you’re not truly trans if you don’t transition” “you have to transition” etc which is so untrue.

I put my transition on hold for a year – and I honestly don’t regret it because at the time it was the right choice for me. I’ve come to realise that at the moment – all I want is top surgery because bottom surgery isn’t for me, my mind may change when I get older but at this present moment in time I don’t want it done for several reasons.

If you meet a transgender individual and they haven’t transitioned – accept them the same as a trans individual who has transitioned. We all have our own reasons, our own stories and our own feelings. Each trans person is different and it’s always important to remember that!

I have started a Just Giving page to help me with the costs of my top surgery. I am currently saving up every penny I have, I am working part time in McDonald’s and I am also in university so money is already extremely tight for me. Over the last year my mental and physical state has gone downhill due to me binding and having moobs – I wear my binder for 15 hours a day because I am so self conscious and that is putting extreme pressure on my back and upper body. So far I have saved up £2,000 and altogether I need around £6,500 (For the surgery, hotel costs and transport costs). If you could spare any sort of change – it would honestly mean the world to me and I promise I will repay the favour at a later date. You can check out my Just Giving page here.

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