One of the top questions I get asked on a regular basis is “have you had all the ops” – when being trans is more than just the operations and hormones.
There’s a huge amount of stigma attached to those who choose to not medically transition – everybody always assumes that someone needs to medically transition to be transgender – and this honestly isn’t the case. Some people may not transition due to not needing it, being poor, having medical conditions that may stop them and others learn to love themselves for who they are.
I went to the NUS trans students conference last week – and a figure of 27% of students aren’t going to transition and I posted it on twitter – which resulted in me getting tweeted by a good 50 TERFS saying that “you’re not truly trans if you don’t transition” “you have to transition” etc which is so untrue.
I put my transition on hold for a year – and I honestly don’t regret it because at the time it was the right choice for me. I’ve come to realise that at the moment – all I want is top surgery because bottom surgery isn’t for me, my mind may change when I get older but at this present moment in time I don’t want it done for several reasons.
If you meet a transgender individual and they haven’t transitioned – accept them the same as a trans individual who has transitioned. We all have our own reasons, our own stories and our own feelings. Each trans person is different and it’s always important to remember that!